Intentional Planning


Your Wedding, Your Way

Intentional PlanningMost couples today want a wedding that reflects not only their commitment to each other, but who they are on a personal level. Though traditional weddings are still popular, we expect that even those will have some special element added that highlights what’s important to the couple. There is no right way to do your wedding. And couples are doing everything from intimate backyard ceremonies to saying their vows while skydiving!

Clarity is the Key

There is so much information out there on weddings. Everything from colors, to candle rituals, to whether or not to have a kids table at the reception can become a monumental decision. That’s why you’ve got to start by clarifying your intentions. If you don’t, it is so easy to get distracted and overwhelmed by other’s opinions and ideas, not to mention magazines and the Internet.

Why Have a Wedding

You can get married at a drive up window in Vegas these days, but instead you’re choosing to do something more meaningful. (Though I’m sure for some, Vegas has sentimental value.) 

There are many powerful questions (Q’s that encourage exploration) to ask yourselves about what your wedding represents and what you want to accomplish. One example is:

Why are we inviting guests?

  1. to give us love and share our joy

  2. to witness and hold us accountable to our commitment

  3. to bring them together as a new joined family

Based on your answers, you may want to design activities that promote these reasons, like a witness scroll for all the guests to sign or a moment of silence in the ceremony when guests can meditate on their wishes for your marriage. 

A Foundation of Values

Clarifying your individual and shared core values can also help you create a wedding from the heart. Identifying what is most important to you in life and making that your foundation for wedding planning will keep everything simple. Each time you consider a new idea to incorporate into your wedding you can ask yourself, “Which value of ours does this honor?” If the answer is none, then don’t use it.